LEAVE PREPARED

No one wants to discuss it.  Many don’t plan for it.  Denial is easier.  But the saying goes, “there are two sure things in life.  Death and taxes. “

Losing a loved one is never pleasant and the aftermath of dealing with their belongings and worse… the paperwork… is a daunting task to tackle when you are grieving.

You can always begin a conversation by suggesting that you are starting the process of your own advance planning paperwork and you would like them to understand your wishes.  Then segue into the fact that you aren’t aware of their wishes.  This is a great opening to begin the process of preparing the paperwork. 

Learn where your parent or loved one keeps important documents, passwords, social media accounts, online billing and subscriptions, all of which you will have to deal with eventually.  Are there keys stashed in a junk drawer that may be important?  Perhaps to a safe deposit box?

Maybe you visit frequently and an hour or so at a time you can help file paperwork or offer to clean up a pile here or there.  Ask about other items like furniture or artwork that may mean something to them, and you will need to responsibly donate, sell or decide to keep yourself when the time comes.

In any event, don’t fear the discussion.  It is healthy and smart to plan and prepare.